Best of Threads - Weekly round up w/c 01.04.24
- The Reality Priestess
- Apr 7, 2024
- 12 min read
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You know that feeling?
That feeling that you’ve made a wrong turn and you are actually meant to be on a different road?
That’s destiny calling.
And if you still have breath in your body, it’s not too late to align with her.
Is this you?
Whenever you try to move forward with a big project in your life or start a new business - you get sick, or something breaks, or a family member gets sick?
There are so many things that could be happening here & it’s important to look into it from a spiritual perspective.
A common reason (but not the only one) is that your higher self is redirecting you, as you are on the wrong path.
My redirection was being hospitalised with meningitis & having to take 2 months off work 😩
I’m not sure humans should be worshipping anybody.
Being grateful and appreciative yes.
But worship? Submission?
I’m not sure…
And this is why I always veer on the side of caution when it comes to deity work. I don’t want anybody or anything to make a slave out of me.
You can work with deities without this element in my opinion.
Biz BTS: I’m extremely focused on improving my craft as a Destiny Worker. It’s something I take very seriously.
I am researching cross cultural takes on destiny indicators and destiny blockers.
The learning never stops and is something I focus on as much as serving clients.
Destiny is not fate!
It’s not something that happens to you.
It’s something you are meant to be continually building towards.
It’s like sewing a quilt. Destiny is both the process of sewing and the final quilt.
You ALWAYS have free will. Free will is what allows Destiny to happen.
Destiny is more about the person you planned to become than the things you came here to do.
But the latter informs the former very heavily.
People pleasers have the hardest time fulfilling their own unique destiny.
Thats normally the first thing you have to work on to get in alignment - learn how to let people down.
Your fulfilment depends upon it.
If you want to hold more, strengthen your arms.
Aligning to your destiny isn’t just about discovering your purpose.
It’s also about developing the character and emotional maturity to hold that purpose.
You can’t avoid the hard inner work of being a solid human. It’s a prerequisite.
How you handle money is often a reflection of how you view yourself.
Always an afterthought? Lots of bad or impulsive money decisions? This normally points to low self esteem and self worth.
Alignment means knowing who you are and operating from that place.
Feeling secure with money (without having to make more of it) is therefore one consequence of true alignment.
I’ve experimented with this idea for years and I can conclude that if you are ashamed or hiding any part of yourself, it will be IMPOSSIBLE to find your true purpose.
Shadow work is really integration work and it is NECESSARY.
It’s not enough to hear advice about just being yourself… you need to know how to do that in practice.
The answer is shadow work.
Destiny & purpose usually start to matter to us when everything we have tried has failed.
We’ve 10X’d, we’ve manifested, we’ve healed, we’ve taken action, we’ve invested in ourselves, we’ve done all the things.
But nothing has taken off. We are where we were but poorer, & more disillusioned
We start to sense that there was a road we were meant to take but never did, a road that required our most authentic self, that we never embraced
And we go looking for it.
And this is your moment now
All the versions of me before this one, intentionally excluded some part of me I was hiding.
Not UNconsciously, but intentionally, because shame was extremely present in my life. It followed me around.
This version is integrated.
That doesn’t mean perfect, but it does mean whole. It does mean honest.
True integration and true alignment is just another way of saying honesty.
Of being in integrity.
Hard work is no longer paying off and we are all waking up to this.
Whatever we are being paid to live an unaligned lifestyle is no longer worth it.
Deconditioning from society is going to create so much alignment for those who choose to seize the opportunity.
I plan to be in the midst
Standing in your truth is the deepest spiritual practice
Before you make a big decision, especially one with a big financial or other kind of commitment - get a reading
Heck - get 2 or 3.
(Not with me, I don’t do those kind of readings, but with someone you trust!)
Some of the most impactful skills I’ve learned have come through trauma.
Living with a narcissistic & mentally ill mother I mastered the art of grey rocking. I didn’t know that was the word for it then.
I learned to master my emotions and my reactivity. I learned how to de escalate a situation and be diplomatic.
It wasn’t without heartache, because I had to relearn how to connect with my emotions and not disassociate.
However achieving a level of emotional mastery has served me deeply.
Are you willing to put your dream of 10k months on hold - just for a while…?
Until you know for certain the path meant for you, the service you were born to provide to humanity, until you know your destiny.
Many good things will come to you when you are standing firmly in divine destiny & purpose.
If you are not mentally and spiritually prepared for destiny alignment, it doesn’t matter if someone reveals your entire Soul Plan to you, you just won’t do it.
Not for all the tea in China.
I had to be told more than once about my calling and only on the 3rd, was I prepared to listen.
And I was only prepared to listen because I was tired of throwing spaghetti at the wall & I’d been in hospital with a virus for 2 weeks.
Ask yourself: what truth am I still unwilling to hear?
Another way of asking how you can more align to your destiny is to ask:
How can I more deeply serve?
How can I be more truthful?
How can I be more of myself?
If you are still paying attention to the algorithm, you’ve got more alignment work to do.
Show up as part of your purpose, the only validation you need is your own.
The first step to get out of the Void is to acknowledge you are in it.
The only way out is through.
Many of us who are called to spiritual practice are “incorporating” our Soul Plans ie we are starting spiritual businesses.
I think this is a good thing. But just remember it’s not the only way for you to be able to do your work and be financially supported.
Ask Spirit if this is the road you should take.
I used to dream about Beyoncé a lot. I’m not a stan by any stretch so I could never understand why she would pop up so often.
When I started doing shadow work and acknowledging that I too wanted to be admired and lauded, (and removed any shame I had around that), she stopped showing up in the dreamscape.
My most successful spiritual practice for seeing the future is this:
I sit on the floor cross legged and get really quiet, still.
I ask myself: “Lola - what do you want?” And in that stillness, I allow the answers to come to me.
It’s impossible for me to overstate how many times this has changed my life
If this doesn’t work for me, it means I’m aren’t ready to hear the answer or act on it. And that’s ok too.
In time I will be.
I’ve never changed jobs or career paths without checking in with my true self.
I don’t leave somewhere out of frustration. I leave because that’s what my inner Self is asking for.
Do you really feel like you manifested the big things in your life?
Or do you feel like they manifested you?
That they were inevitable? Meant to be?
This life is a delicate balance between making things happen and letting things be.
Your destiny will always include something that you had to overcome.
It may have been a stutter when you are called to speak.
It may have been dyslexia when you are called to write.
Our divine self hides our destiny in difficulties just as much as it is hidden in gifts.
The unfolding is part of the journey.
We all know that results come from action.
But knowing this doesn’t actually help us take any action does it?
This is why I studied both destiny and hypnotherapy 🤣
Do you know what season of life you are in?
Your destiny unfolds in seasons and each season has a different focus.
Maybe it’s family building, maybe it’s biz building. Maybe it’s travel and finding yourself.
Identify your season and get in alignment.
There was a time in my life when I realised I only THOUGHT I was praying..
I was actually just complaining all the time and hoping someone would do something about it.
No. Doesn’t work that way. You actually have to ask!
Wonder why the most talented people don’t become the most famous / applauded?
Maybe it’s a corrupt system, maybe they didn’t work hard enough…
Or maybe our destiny gives us exactly what we decided in our pre birth Soul Plan.
Our Soul Plans are not based on meritocracy or what we “deserve”.
They are based on what our Divine Self truly desires.
I find that the most powerful spiritual practices are normally the most simple practices. Especially when they are done consistently.
I judge a practice based on whether it works rather than what it looks like.
Consistency in itself is a spiritual practice.
(Although there is little point in being consistent about something that isn’t aligned for you)
Some people won’t like this but it’s true.
A few years ago I fell into a deep trance whilst on a train. I felt myself cycling between extreme happiness and sadness over small things I would see outside of the window.
In one moment seeing a cow in the field would be hilarious and in another very sad.
I was being shown that the driver of these polarities was PERSPECTIVE. It wasn’t the objective circumstance that was creating the emotion.
Still one of the most powerful revelations I’ve received.
A way to understand Destiny is to think in terms of Destination.
The place you are ultimately headed.
I’m in another liminal space.
No longer in the in between of not knowing what I want.
Now in the space of knowing where I want to go and not yet being there.
Learning to hold gratitude and desire in the same hands.
Mastering contentment.
Shadow work is a core part of Destiny Work
We all need different entry points to get where we are going.
It might be alignment, mindset, strategy, action, shadow work or healing.
There is more than one way to skin a rabbit.
Emotions are just information.
If you are jealous - that’s just another emotion.
Get curious about what that emotion is telling you.uuu
If your intuition has suddenly got quiet, check how much sleep you’ve been getting
Journal prompt: if you could choose a purpose and destiny for yourself, what would you choose?
(There is some magic in answering this question for yourself, try it)
Few things are better than having a compelling reason to wake up everyday
In Yoruba spiritual philosophy, we choose our destiny before we incarnate.
This does not mean we always make good choices. In fact, the stories make clear that we can make very bad ones which require us to remediate those choices on this side of incarnation.
I find this so interesting.
At every stage of life, the ability to make good choices is a pre requisite for good outcomes.
It clearly isn’t the only factor but an important one.
Why is that talking about personal responsibility/ personal agency can so often sound like victim blaming.
It’s such a fine line to embrace your power whilst also acknowledging that not everything is your “fault”.
Walking this line is fundamental for true liberation and fulfilment
When I reflect over the years on all the people I’ve met, so many of us had big dreams.
It’s normal to have big dreams in your 20s and even 30s. You are not unique.
And it’s totally normal for those dreams not to pan out. It doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you.
In fact, it’s a rite of passage to drop the dreams that were never meant for you in order to find what truly is.
Those dreams you had in your 20s, well a lot of them didn’t even belong to you.
You’ll find what does
One of the fastest ways to get the attention of Spirit is to move in the WRONG direction 🤣
There is no substitute for just sitting down and doing the work you know you are called to do.
As Nike says - Just Do It.
You can either discover your destiny or recreate it.
And we are all doing both all at the same time.
Our higher self is not perfect. It’s also a being that is evolving - just as the Universe is, just as Source is.
Spirit is not all knowing. We must exercise discernment. Spirit has sight but cannot always “do”, and the physical can “do” but not always “see”
We have to work together symbiotically, as an integrated being.
When I think of why I’m here I think of it in this way
- the character / role I’m here to embody
- what I’m here to experience and enjoy
- what I’m here to express
I have chosen paths to facilitate each of the above and so have you.
Self acceptance is a prerequisite to transformation.
Once you know that you don’t NEED to change, it becomes much easier for you to choose to do so.
Show me where you are hiding from your shadows and I’ll show you the areas in your life with the most unexplained difficulty
There often comes a moment in life when we realise that we were the cause of something really bad that happened to us.
For example, we made a really a poor financial decision and now we are dealing with the consequence.
When this happens, you need to look it straight in the face, accept accountability and then…
Forgive yourself.
All strengths are weaknesses and all weaknesses are strengths.
It depends on the context and situation.
I have a somewhat utilitarian view of spiritual truth and practice.
Is it useful? Does it work? Does it help me?
Developing self awareness should be seen firstly as a route to self compassion and acceptance ….
…rather than self improvement
You are completely worthy as you are.
Self awareness is fundamental cornerstone of Destiny alignment
How to remediate a “bad” destiny / luck?
There are many ways, if even we accept this premise to begin with.
The most common and effective way I’ve seen is to improve how you relate to the following:
1. People & Emotions (increase emotional intelligence)
2. Money (improve financial literacy)
Get skills first then rituals.
One of the greatest acts of bravery is to look at reality for what it is and neither lose hope nor fall into delusion.
Don’t behave only from the way you want the world to be, act like the world really is the way it is.
I’ve been going deep into the North Node and further understanding the implications for destiny alignment.
The North Node paints a picture of a destination, it can represent where we need to expand and grow whereas the South Node represents innate gifts and potentially over developed gifts, or things we need to hold lightly.
I focus on the North Node and Life Path Number when I do destiny readings as I find that they really start to show their influence around our mid 30s and onwards.
If you want to identify the season of life you are in, find out where you are doing the most learning.
That’s your season.
Getting married and then building my biz were the first things I genuinely did for myself.
I didn’t do either of these based on the expectations of others, whether for or against. I marched to the beat of my own drum.
And those two things have had the biggest impact on catapulting me into alignment with destiny.
Your destiny is found in the conscious decisions you make for YOURSELF
The work I came here to do and the life I desire to live are largely independent.
Some of you are tripping up because you believe your purpose has to provide for you and solve all your problems.
Think bigger.
Deconditioning is the true path to freedom
If you are going in the right direction then surrender and going with the flow will help you get there with ease.
If you are on the wrong road, you better do a hard turn and hit the gas.
Different seasons, different strategies.
So many of our so called spiritual problems are actually money problems.
If we could be truthful and say “I haven’t been good with managing money” we would get so much further than we will with a money ritual.
I’m all for rituals but I’m also about learning skills. It’s about what’s the best tool for the problem.
Alignment is sometimes losing all your friends not because they did anything wrong, but because the version of you that made friends with them, no longer exists.
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