Embracing Grief as a Pathway to Destiny: Letting Go of Unmet Expectations

Dear friends

Grief is a necessary stage on the way to finding your destiny. It’s mourning the life you thought you were meant to live, letting it die completely. I wrote a post about it on Threads that gained so much traction that I knew there was something there.

Here is what I wrote:

"I want to talk about grief.

Not the grief of losing a loved one, but the grief of unmet expectations.

The grief of life not turning out how I once imagined it would. 

How I assumed it would.

Because I don’t hear anyone talking about this grief and whether you ever get used to it.

Or whether you just find different ways to pretend that it’s not really there."

There are so many dreams I’ve let go of, or had to accept that they are delayed:

I can’t change my childhood, the parents I was given or the trauma that resulted from that. 

Marriage and babies came later in life than I wanted. 

A big career dream I was working towards for over a decade didn’t feel aligned more. 

This is part of the process. 

Death is an integral part of life. Even in tarot, it signifies transformation, and with that the potential for rebirth.

Take a few minutes to write any reflections:

I wonder how you feel when you reflect on this. What comes up for you? Have you ever allowed yourself to mourn your unmet expectations?

Here is a prayer / affirmation you can say quietly to yourself: I accept that death and grief are part of life. I look forward to what will grow in the places where I’ve suffered loss.

Announcements & Behind the Scenes (Birthday & New Blog!)

I now have a blog on the website where I dive deeper into spiritual topics and where newsletter archives will be posted. I also desired a place where I could post the "Best of Threads". 

Threads is where I get to channel off the cuff spiritual insight that forms the basis for everything I do here. I didn't want them to get lost with the fickle attention span of social media.

Check out the latest weekly round up here: The Blog

Also - It was my birthday yesterday! I turned 36 and what a difference in feeling from 35. 35 felt very much like a mid life crisis to me, so I was very grateful that this year I got through my birthday without tears. 

With my birthday coming not long after an eclipse, mercury retrograde, Jupiter/Uranus Conjuction and today a full moon in Scorpio, its been a lot of energy for me to move through! I am pretty excited about everything that's to come this year, particularly with my business Your Divine Path. It feels meaningful and hopeful.

I hope that whatever you are up to this week, that it feels meaningful for you also.

With love,

Lola